Remember that change can start with YOU!
I know it’s tough and it might even feel a bit unfair, but check out my blog post “Sorry, I can’t fix your clueless husband” over at Psychology Today for some thoughts.
Can relationship or marriage counseling work if there’s just one of us?
It sure can, but it isn’t easy. And in the hands of an inexperienced therapist it can actually be potentially damaging. That’s why it’s important to find an individual counselor or therapist who is skilled, knowledgeable, and experienced in couples therapy methods, too.
And I’ll let you in on a little secret…most of us got very little experience specifically learning counseling for romantic relationship concerns during our professional training years.
Scary, right? Why is that? Well, (thankfully) a broken heart isn’t a diagnosable medical condition…[unless you literally have a broken heart, and in that case, you should see your cardiologist right away!].
But what I found out along the way was that many people I worked with came in struggling with their most important intimate relationships. They were stressed out from feeling disconnected, alone, and unsupported while their partners were unavailable or unwilling to address the problems.
So I did what I normally do when faced with a new problem and hit the books to dig deeper and learn more about how to help people through their difficult romantic dilemmas.
What I’ve learned is that there is hope when only one of you wants help!
Clients I’ve worked with in individual relationship counseling talk about finding greater clarity for their concerns, more integrity in their decision making, strength, self-confidence, and peace within themselves and often within their relationships.
So if you’re ready to be the change you want to see in your relationship, then give me a shout-out!